How 3 women made new friends — while in quarantine
Who are the people you sometimes see at the same parties and share mutual friends, but never have one-on-one conversations? We met a handful of times over the years and she casually always invited me to them at a yoga class.
Since meeting her new friend, Catherine has reached out to other potential pals on Instagram. I did exactly what Bayard advised and messaged her on Instagram.
I want real dating
I decided to keep our appointment. Bayard was patient and listened to me vent. Claire, 26, has also found success on the dating-app route.
I felt ready to hear what Bayard had in store for me and was happy to know that there were only three challenges she wanted me to tackle over the next month to help me make friends. She looks through location tags near her to follow people lookihg look interesting, and initiates conversation when it makes sense.
I wrote each challenge down and devoted at least one week to following through on them. Dealing with the same stressor — the pandemic — made the virtual friending process feel very normal.
Without the plethora of options in-person socializing affords, she finds people are more open to making friends this way. The first thing Bayard advised me to do was take inventory of people I know and who they know.
Download the friend-finding app, hey! vina.
Though she says she's cautious about "being a creep," she explains that these connections often manifest naturally. All my friends are married with. Without the structure of school or an office to naturally encourage friendships, you might think the coronavirus would have made it even harder.
Those with social anxiety struggle because they are in their head and second guess themselves. She advised me to send that person a message on Instagram asking them to get maks.
Catherine, 33, accidentally made a new friend back in March over Instagram. Start there.
Most people, I thought, make friends without a strategy or game plan. They may follow me back or comment back or they may not," Catherine says. She downloaded the app for its intended purpose — dating — but soon after, she realized that by expanding her settings, she could take the pressure off meeting potential partners and find interesting people to make friends with. I might see someone in my area with an interesting feed and follow them, like a photo or comment on something that genuinely interests me.
But before I did, I asked Bayard for advice on what to say. I told her I almost canceled our session out of pure shame. But some women are finding that quarantine has provided a surprising opportunity for making friends online. Though they have yet to meet in person, they find comfort in their correspondence and plan on making an too connection when they can.